How Society has Ignored the Issue of Domestic Abuse


Courtesy of the Niall Boylan Show

Dominance is defined by the Merriam Webster dictionary
as a controlling, prevailing, or powerful position especially in a social hierarchy, but more importantly, it is what drives a culture of misogyny and abuse. Often times, this social hierarchy is what allows men to stay on top, what allows domestic abuse to prevail. The less popular cousin to sexual assault, domestic abuse, typically originates in the need to express a dominating position, is mostly inflicted on women, and in these cases only perpetuates the societal idea of a woman’s submissive role to her husband. Seen often on TV or in books, this form of attack is often not made out to be as serious as it truly is, often followed by a beg for forgiveness, not showing the repetition of the violence, not showing the recurring pattern. Constantly we see articles and news reports on sexual assault, and while this new exposure on assault is important and necessary, it makes one question how domestic violence has been held partially in the shadows all these years.

Every day, three women are killed by an intimate partner. One in four women have suffered violence from an intimate partner, and yet so rarely do we see articles titled, What to do if You’ve Been Hit by Your Husband. So rarely is this topic covered, but so often does it happen. Moreover, the long-term effects of this are almost as bad as its actual occurrence. Over half the women affected by domestic violence have post-traumatic stress disorder, and 100% of survivors must deal with the idea that a person they were supposed to trust, that were supposed to love and care about them, physically attacked them.

Recently, two police officers were shot when investigating a domestic abuse call, trying to save a victim. People called them true heroes, and while they undoubtedly were, the article fixated only around them. It was not how victim Candace Smith suffered, or that that the abuser was not arrested for harming her. Every day that perpetrators get away with these actions is another day more are led to believe that this is acceptable, another day of pain for an innocent.

Domestic abuse is an issue, indicative of the faults in our society, that needs to be brought higher up in our list of priorities, needs to be stopped. Boys should be shown that actions such as these are despicable, and girls should be told that they have a voice, the importance of standing up for themselves. Step by step, we can combat this problem, but it needs to be better addressed. It needs to be discussed more, not as a joke or a trivial matter, but as a representation of misogyny, of the gender hierarchy, of everything we still need to improve on as a society. We have made large steps towards equality, towards a better society, but this is still a significant leap that needs to be made, so please fight for those who cannot speak up, for those who are not listened to. Fight for the human rights that are often ignored or tossed carelessly to the side. Fight for the improvement of mankind because if you do, if we do, together this issue can end once and for all.


-Katie Jain